3 Reasons Why You Don’t Follow Your Dreams
Perseverance is defined as the persistence in doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success. Perseverance is how you follow your dreams.
Most people start to read a book and don’t make it past the first chapter of a non-fiction book that is designed to improve their lives. They start a business and as soon they believe its not going as well as they had imagined, they give up. Its all well being patient, but patience doesn’t mean sitting around and hoping success just materialises. Patience is nothing without perseverance.
There is nothing easier than giving up.
Many people set out on achieving a goal to improve their lives but give up at the first hurdle or at the first sacrifice they have to make. This is the one of the biggest mistakes you can make in your life and you need to be aware of it.
You will feel fear, you will feel anxiety, you will feel rejection and despair, but these are just feelings and believe it or not they will not kill you. These feelings are your body’s inbuilt warning mechanisms that are activated when your brain can’t tell you how things are going to turn out. The body wants you to stay alive, and these feelings would have stopped the ancient man from wondering away from his tribe and into the unknown, where he could be mauled and killed by wild animals. The chance of this happening to you today are minimal. A wild Hyena isn’t going to chase you as you walk to your car in the morning (unless you live in Australia). Your body still issues these warnings when you try something new because you haven’t built up the confidence that comes from the competence of succeeding at the new challenges you have to face.
3 Reasons Why You Don’t Follow Your Dreams
1. You didn’t set the right goals
They followed other peoples goals, or didn’t think through what they wanted to achieve well enough. In turn, when they get to the hurdle, they don’t feel like jumping over it. They can see what they will get when they get over it, and they just don’t want it enough.
Its very important to ensure that they goals that you set yourself excite you. This is what your life is going to be about. Picture yourself achieving your goal. Is it what you want to do with your life? Is it worth it? If the answer is YES, then you’ve set yourself the right goals.
2. You don’t think they you can achieve them
In setting out on the journey of achieving your goals and building the life that you really want, there will be challenges along the way and many new skills you have to learn to get there. If you don’t have the confidence that comes from the competence of achiving goals previously, the idea of trying to succeed may seem daunting or impossible. You just don’t feel like you have it in you to get there. This is not actually based on any facts and it may be because of some failures you faced in the past. Past failures do not have to affect what happens in your future, and the fear of failure is not failure itself. Only you can choose what happens.
When you face a challenge, you will not be the first person to have ever faced that challenge in the entirety of human history. There will be a way to overcome it, whether it be through extreme hard work or the acquisition of some new knowledge. Whatever it is, it can be done when you have the patience and perseverance to go for it.
3. You care how others will judge them
The fear of failure is a huge hindrance on you success. You fear other peoples reactions to you when you fail at achieving your goals. It could be your loved ones, your friends and colleagues, or strangers you haven’t met yet, but you fear how you will be perceived if you fail.
This feeling of caring what other people think could not be more ridiculous, even if it is understandable. We live amongst each other and we are cognitively and physically affected by those around us. Instinctively, we care what others think about us but this can be overcome. Others thoughts of us can in no way affect us, and to live your life with the aim of pleasing others is not doing your life the justice it deserves.
When you are 90 years old, and those people whose impression of you mattered so much to you are dead, how will you feel then? Will you feel better for not having achieved your goals because you wanted to appease them?
People will try to judge you and keep you down with your best interests in mind. Your loved ones may not want you to suffer failure so they will encourage you to get a job instead of starting your own business. Your friends may not encourage you to work on yourself so you can live a better and healthier life because they didn’t try to achieve their goals and seeing you successful and healthy will make them feel bad about their lives. So they will not encourage you to go for it and try to impact you negatively when you do. If you chose to appease them because you’re afraid of loosing such friends, it seems like a good thing if you did lose them. You’ll find new friends who are good enough and successful. These types of people don’t need to keep you down because they are too focused on achieving their own goals to care about your life. They will just want to share the good times with you.
The surest way of achieving success is by following successful people. These leaders have achieved their goals and are constantly setting themselves new ones. They are patient, they persevere through any challenge, and they want to inspire others. Check out our successful people page for more inspiration from these leaders.
There is nothing easier in this world than giving up on your dreams, but will it be easy to live with yourself when the opportunity fades?
Never stop to follow your dreams and don’t let anyone or anything get in your way.